You’re Not Failing — You’re in the Middle of the Process

If your job search has taken longer than you expected, I want to start with this:
➡️ You’re not alone. You’re not failing. You’re not behind.

I work with talented, experienced professionals every day — people who are highly capable — and many of them have faced long job searches for reasons outside their control.

It’s easy to think something is wrong with you when you see others landing roles quickly. But there are so many factors in play — market timing, organizational changes, hidden opportunities — that have nothing to do with your worth.

Still, when the search stretches on, it’s discouraging. So let’s talk about how to reset, refocus, and move forward when your job search is taking longer than you hoped.

1️⃣ Acknowledge the Emotional Toll (and Give Yourself Some Grace)

Long job searches are exhausting.

It’s okay to feel frustrated, discouraged, and tired of hearing "we went in a different direction."

But here’s the th...

Do you ever find yourself questioning your achievements, worrying that one day you'll be exposed as a fraud at work? If so, you're not alone.

I vividly recall those days when an "exceeds" performance review triggered a peculiar thought – "I'm not truly an exceeds performer; I'm just skilled at convincing them I am." This phenomenon is classic imposter syndrome.

Back then, I didn't recognize it as such; it was merely how I perceived myself, an indisputable fact in my mind. I believed I was fooling everyone around me. Now, years (dare I say decades) later, I can readily identify it not only in women but also in my male clients.

Imposter syndrome is a pervasive feeling of self-doubt and inadequacy, even when there's ample evidence of success. It subtly creeps in, causing individuals to question their abilities and attribute their accomplishments to luck rather than merit.

Why is it problematic? Well, first and foremost, it feels terrible. More importantly, though, imposter syndrome ca...