What to Do When You’ve Been in the Job Search Longer Than Expected

You’re Not Failing — You’re in the Middle of the Process

If your job search has taken longer than you expected, I want to start with this:
➡️ You’re not alone. You’re not failing. You’re not behind.

I work with talented, experienced professionals every day — people who are highly capable — and many of them have faced long job searches for reasons outside their control.

It’s easy to think something is wrong with you when you see others landing roles quickly. But there are so many factors in play — market timing, organizational changes, hidden opportunities — that have nothing to do with your worth.

Still, when the search stretches on, it’s discouraging. So let’s talk about how to reset, refocus, and move forward when your job search is taking longer than you hoped.

1️⃣ Acknowledge the Emotional Toll (and Give Yourself Some Grace)

Long job searches are exhausting.

It’s okay to feel frustrated, discouraged, and tired of hearing "we went in a different direction."

But here’s the thing: you don’t have to push those feelings aside. Acknowledge them. Then remind yourself:
➡️ “This is a season — not forever.”

Sometimes the best first step is simply giving yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling — and then decide what you’ll do next.

2️⃣ Step Back and Evaluate What’s Working (and What’s Not)

When you’ve been searching for a while, it’s easy to keep doing the same things without realizing they may not be working.

Take a moment to reflect:

✔️ Are you only applying online and not getting responses?
✔️ Are you relying on cold applications and skipping networking?
✔️ Are you sharing a story in interviews that isn’t landing with employers?

Sometimes small adjustments — to your resume, your story, or your approach — can make a big difference.

If you’re not sure where to start, ask yourself:
➡️ “What would I tell a friend if they were in my shoes?” (We’re often kinder and clearer when giving others advice!)

3️⃣ Focus on Conversations, Not Just Applications

When you’re feeling desperate for a role, it’s tempting to hide behind job boards and submit as many applications as possible.

But most job seekers I work with land roles through conversations — not cold applications.

If you’ve been stuck applying and waiting, shift your focus to people:

• Reconnect with former colleagues, classmates, and peers.
• Reach out to someone in a role you’d love to learn more about.
• Have one conversation a week — no pressure, just a real connection.

People hire people. Not resumes.

4️⃣ Take Care of Yourself So You Can Stay in the Game

Job searching is mentally and emotionally draining.
And if you’re burned out, it’s even harder to show up confidently.

Here are small ways to take care of yourself during the process:

• Set specific hours for job searching — and give yourself permission to stop when that time is up.
• Celebrate small wins (like sending a message or having a great networking call).
• Step away when needed — take a walk, do something you enjoy, or spend time with people who lift you up.

You cannot job search 24/7 — and you don’t need to.

5️⃣ Remind Yourself of Your Value (Even If the Market Isn’t Reflecting It Yet)

Just because you haven’t landed the right role yet doesn’t mean you don’t have value.

Write out:

• What you bring to the table.
• What you’ve accomplished.
• What others have said about working with you.

Keep this list handy. Review it when rejection hits.

Your worth isn’t defined by how fast you land a role.

Your Action Plan: 3 Small Steps to Take This Week

1️⃣ Reach out to one person you’ve lost touch with and start a conversation.
2️⃣ Review your job search approach and identify one thing to adjust (resume, story, networking focus).
3️⃣ Celebrate one small win — even if it’s just taking action today.

You’re Closer Than You Think

If you’ve been searching longer than expected, please hear this:
➡️ You are not behind. You are in process.

Small adjustments, real conversations, and taking care of yourself will move you forward.

Want More Support to Reset and Refocus?

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