Networking & Visibility
How do I network without asking people for something?
Begin with interest, context, and contribution rather than disguising a job request as a relationship.
2 minute readBegin with interest, context, and contribution rather than disguising a job request as a relationship.
Networking feels transactional when the conversation has only one acceptable outcome. A stronger approach is to learn, reconnect, exchange perspective, and understand the other person’s world. Opportunities can emerge without making every person responsible for producing one.
Make the invitation honest
Say why you thought of the person and what you would value learning. A specific, modest request is easier to answer than “Can I pick your brain?” or “Let me know if you hear of anything.”
If you are exploring a direction, it is fine to say so. The difference is that the conversation itself has value beyond an immediate referral.
Practice reciprocity without keeping score
Offer a useful introduction, resource, or perspective when it genuinely fits. Ask what the other person is working on and listen for ways you can help.
Reciprocity is a long-term pattern, not a forced exchange completed during one call.